Going to sex therapy can feel like an odd, niche thing — but it’s actually more common than you might think. Millions of people all over the world have sexual problems and can benefit from a therapist who specialises in their needs.
A sex therapist is trained to help men, women, non-binary and transgender people address issues that can have a major impact on their sex life. They also work with couples. And just like all talk therapists, their job is to support you and provide a safe space for honest conversation about difficult subjects.
Often, a sex therapist will ask you to give them a rundown of your relationship and sexual history. They will use this information to understand what’s causing your sexual problems and what the best way to help is.
If they suspect there is a physical problem, they will refer you to a medical doctor. Then, they’ll work with the doctor to find the underlying cause.
After the initial session, you will be given “homework” that you will complete between sessions. This can vary depending on the individual or couple, but might include activities that are designed to increase your sexual education and improve communication around sex. It could also involve practising touch – for example, your sex therapist might ask you to stroke your arm for ten minutes in between your appointments with them.
Whether you’re single or in a relationship, it’s important to choose the right therapist for your needs. You might want to ask a friend, your GP or your gynecologist for recommendations.